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Love Has Everything to Do With It: Domestic Violence Awareness

Domestic violence effects all types of people in all communities. In fact, according to a U.S. Department of Justice study, one in every four women will experience domestic violence in her lifetime.

Join us on Sunday, October 6th in the Bostick Auditorium at Richland Library Main at 3:00 p.m. for an inspiring and informative program in honor of Domestic Violence Awareness Month.

Local author, playwright, domestic violence volunteer and activist Eugene Washington will speak about how and why more men should get involved in preventing relationship violence, and read some excerpts from his book inspired by the subject: Love Has Everything to Do With It: Writings About Love and the Lack Thereof.

Permeco Myers, Sistercare's 2008 Community Awareness Volunteer of the Year, will share her story of breaking out of an abusive relationship and going on to become an advocate for others going through similar situations.

Experts from local organizations Sistercare, Sexual Trauma Services of the Midlands, and USC's Office of Sexual Assault and Violence Intervention & Prevention will be there to share resources and answer questions.

At the end of the program, Mr. Washington will sign and sell copies of his book, with a portion of the proceeds going to benefit Sistercare's work helping battered women and their children.


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