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New Year's Resolution: I WILL. I WON'T. I WANT.

Welcome to my 2014 New Year’s resolution mantra! I have chosen this profound 3-step chant as a tool to use during moments of temptation, laziness, rationalization or more succinctly, lack of WILLPOWER. This is one sure thing I can predict will happen within the next 365 days!

According to Dr. Kelly McGonigal, author of “The Will Power Instinct. What is it?” Self-control is merely a mental muscle that needs strengthening. The more we use it the stronger it gets. (Sure. Easier said than done!). She defines Willpower as, “the ability to do what matters most, even when other conflicting goals and opportunities arise.”

Dr. McGonigal further elaborates on the additional benefits that are developed when we exercise our willpower; Research shows that people are happier, live longer, and are more successful in various areas of their life. And, if that doesn’t motivate you, how about the research which substantiates that willpower is more powerful than intelligence!

Wow, is this a confidence booster or what? As a career coach, I have many customers seeking employment or looking to transition into a new field and we certainly know how much willpower it takes to power through the arduous job searching process. So how will this mantra help? Let’s break it down.

KEEP IN MIND THAT ALL THESE ASPECTS OF WILLPOWER WORK TOGETHER-

I WON’T – This means you have the ABILITY TO NOT do something even though “every cell in your body tells you that you want to." Example: Eat an entire box of chocolates. OR- Procrastinate making a career coaching appointment to write that resume. (Business and Job Center, 3rd level)

I WILL – The ABILITY TO DO something even though it is difficult, doesn’t interest us or makes us feel uncomfortable. Some part of us wants to put it off, But, we have to somehow restrain ourselves or motivate and propel ourselves. Example: Volunteer to give a speech at the next toastmasters meeting. OR- Join a local Toastmaster's Club so you can lessen the fear of public speaking. Link: http://reports.toastmasters.org

I WANT – We rarely think of this one. It is a real skill to HAVE THE ABILITY to keep your goals and values in mind so that when you are tempted or distracted by something some part of you will remember what your goals are. Example: Replace mindless television with audio-books & crocheting, or music & reading. OR- FOR MORAL SUPPORT AND ACCOUNTABILITY-


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