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How To Talk To Your Teen About Job Loss

Parents need to remember that when there is a family crisis- whether it's unemployment or something else - the child will sense it. When parents fail to communicate directly, children fill in the blanks with the worst. Parents don't realize this and instead they think that they're helping their child by keeping them from knowing the crisis is present. But in the end they are giving their child permission to worry about the worst case scenario because that’s naturally where child's brain goes.

-Kate Roberts, Ph.D., Psychology Today

You don't have to weather a crisis by yourself. The loss of a job can radically tilt how a family functions, but honesty and stability can take you from bad to better. 

Psychology Today has several pieces of advice for talking to your children about job loss, such as how to frame the problem and what to share.

The American Psychological Association offers tools for managing stress that should prove useful to any age group. 

Richland Library offers Job Resources to help people gain employment. Our career specialists are available to help you build and tweak your resume, as well as practice interviews for your chosen field and position.

Feel free to check out the library's catalog of job, career, and parenting books, including the items listed below. 


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